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In addition to the signs listed above, here are some signs a friend might be being abused by a partner: A person who is being abused needs someone to hear and believe him or her.
"This leads to something we call 'diffuse physiological arousal' or 'flooding' [which involves] one or both partners' bodies releasing hormones as heart rates accelerate, muscles become tense, the skin becomes hot or sweaty, and the stomach feels nervous." Sound familiar?Here's where it gets interesting: After all that research, Dr. Here, Gottman Institute expert Mike Mc Nulty, Ph D, LCSW, breaks down what every couple needs to know, including why contempt is so detrimental to a relationship, how to spot it (in both your partner and yourself) and—perhaps most importantly—how to stop it.Gottman noticed a clear pattern among couples that didn't stay together, identifying what he says is the #1 predictor of divorce. It's normal to feel annoyed at your partner or to disagree on things, but when you allow yourself to reach a level of contempt or disgust for him or her, that's when Mc Nulty says it becomes unhealthy.I decided that any negative aspect of our relationship didn't matter because he loved me so much — there was a reasonable explanation for all of it. Six months into our engagement, that image of our life crumbled to pieces.So when he proposed to me after almost a year of dating, I was overjoyed. My fiancé decided that he didn't want to marry me anymore, and it felt like a tragedy.