New to the dating scene again
The Pitfalls of Dating During Divorce - Find out why starting a new relationship while your divorce is pending can put you at a disadvantage. - If you are being pressured by friends and family to start dating, you need to figure out if you're really ready to date yet. Right - Get tips and insight on finding a good match the second time around.
Dating Again After Divorce - Here are seven tips to make sure your post-divorce dating adventures are safe, sane, and successful.
Your First Relationship After Divorce - After things have started to settle down, you'll probably consider dating again at some point in time.
And while it may not last, the first relationship you have with a new man can do a lot to heal your wounded soul.
If you do what you've always done, then you'll get what you've always gotten.
And one of the things you have to do is look at your patterns.
Or maybe a partner’s allergies compelled you to live without pets and now you’re ready to romp with a fellow dog lover. Factors that loomed large in the past—good looks, financial success, whatever—may pale in the present as you acknowledge the importance of a partner who is kind and supportive, or one who is funny and entertaining. If you’ve become a bit, er, casual in the weight, wardrobe or grooming departments, now’s the time to ratchet up your game. So actively encourage them to think of you as a single, eligible person.
In particular, avoid over-reminiscing about your old life; it may make your new acquaintance feel excluded. You may long to clone your lost love, but it’s unlikely you’ll ever meet an exact replica of the one you were with. After all, the person you met at age 25 changed over a lifetime, and so did you.
Now you’re in a different stage, with a redrawn horizon.
In short, grant yourself the freedom to gravitate to a whole new kind of person. Visit a salon or barbershop and ask how you could best update your hairstyle. Everyone’s circle of close friends is necessarily limited, however, so mention your quest even to those you don’t know well.
Seek out a clothing consultant or personal shopper — someone who can advise you on a flattering look and help you pick out items to achieve it. Research shows that many opportunities come through our “weak ties,” or people we know largely in passing: hairdresser, chiropractor, a neighbor’s visiting sister—even your seatmate on a flight! Most well-known dating sites have a large contingent of “seekers” in their 50s, 60s and 70s (and some in their 80s and even 90s), and several reputable sites are now completely free.